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slant eyes · 07-21-2005, 04:29 PM

so i have this female best friend and we were close as hell. to the point where people, even family members, thought we were seeing each other.

i have caught her lying to me before but she got slapped for it and asked for a clean slate and, i think out of sympathy at the time, i obliged and we went about our conjoined merry ways for some time.

i haven't been able to fully trust her and and blatant about asking her stuff that seems weird to me. her explanations, though sometimes shady, usually suffice with me as i am not able to prove anything.

yesterday, she claimed to have made a drive home 38+ miles away, coming home across 5 different stretches of very busy freeway (all with carpool lanes), in under 46 minutes.

her refusal to talk to me, as she normally does, on the drive home was the first red flag.

i pressed and pressed. i checked her car for warmth on the hood. i asked her if someone drove her home or if she drove herself. i found myself having to fight her use of technicality to find the truth.

i ended up telling her, 'i hope you're not lying, and if you are, i hope you fess up soon'

her answer....'i'm sorry it sounds weird to you, but that's how it happened'

i wasn't satisfied and kept pressing with different pieces of oddities that transpired. then i guess she finally caved. she had to send me a text message instead of telling me on the phone.

she told me she had an old friend drive her since she was ill and that she couldn't say at the time because it would give away birthday plans for me. i don't see how a person driving would give it away, but anyways. she tells me that she couldn't talk to me because she was making calls to arrange for my birthday.

ok. so 2 scenarios here.

1) she's telling the truth about the birthday. but did she have to lie about the driving? nonetheless, she lied to me plainly and in my face.

2) she's not telling the truth at all about planning my birthday. how can i trust her? she lied after all.

so not sure if i'm just venting, but what do you all think i should do? give her another chance? what are you feelings about this?

oh yeah, she knows i do not tolerate dis-honesty one bit. but i made an exception once.

07-21-2005, 04:29 PM	#1 (permalink)
slant eyes Psycho Location: cali	best friend lies.... so i have this female best friend and we were close as hell. to the point where people, even family members, thought we were seeing each other. i have caught her lying to me before but she got slapped for it and asked for a clean slate and, i think out of sympathy at the time, i obliged and we went about our conjoined merry ways for some time. i haven't been able to fully trust her and and blatant about asking her stuff that seems weird to me. her explanations, though sometimes shady, usually suffice with me as i am not able to prove anything. yesterday, she claimed to have made a drive home 38+ miles away, coming home across 5 different stretches of very busy freeway (all with carpool lanes), in under 46 minutes. her refusal to talk to me, as she normally does, on the drive home was the first red flag. i pressed and pressed. i checked her car for warmth on the hood. i asked her if someone drove her home or if she drove herself. i found myself having to fight her use of technicality to find the truth. i ended up telling her, 'i hope you're not lying, and if you are, i hope you fess up soon' her answer....'i'm sorry it sounds weird to you, but that's how it happened' i wasn't satisfied and kept pressing with different pieces of oddities that transpired. then i guess she finally caved. she had to send me a text message instead of telling me on the phone. she told me she had an old friend drive her since she was ill and that she couldn't say at the time because it would give away birthday plans for me. i don't see how a person driving would give it away, but anyways. she tells me that she couldn't talk to me because she was making calls to arrange for my birthday. ok. so 2 scenarios here. 1) she's telling the truth about the birthday. but did she have to lie about the driving? nonetheless, she lied to me plainly and in my face. 2) she's not telling the truth at all about planning my birthday. how can i trust her? she lied after all. so not sure if i'm just venting, but what do you all think i should do? give her another chance? what are you feelings about this? oh yeah, she knows i do not tolerate dis-honesty one bit. but i made an exception once. __________________ no man or woman is worth your tears - and the one who is, won't make you cry question authority, don't ask why, just do it!