I really wonder about people sometimes too.
When one word can cause how many people to flip a lid and whip out their "holier than thou" personality so quickly, it is sad indeed in my opinion.
I'll answer the questsion's you put forth,
"is it THAT hard to not do things that can cause hurt feelings?" Yes, if I want to do it this is America.. I'll fuckin do it
"Is it THAT difficult to have respect for someone." Yes, If I don't know the person, I don't have respect for them, you earn respect, it is not given.
Now if you would be so kind as to answer mine.
Is it that hard to just get over it?
Well I guess that's about the only question I have, but it's pretty damn valid if you ask me.