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TM875 · 07-20-2005, 01:37 PM

The future's gonna be rough, at least for a little bit. You're gonna have to fight feelings of inadequacy and distrust. This same thing happened to me.

Yes, it's been a year, but the little inside pain twinge is still there. Don't get me wrong - I don't want her back (hindsight is 20/20, isn't it?) and I certainly am not upset about it being over (I might have ended it soon, or at least let it dwindle), but the anger stems to how she did it. Just started dating another guy, without telling me. It's cowardly and cruel.

And that's the real reason she did it. She was afraid to tell you - too scared to face the truth. And, in the end, the truth will almost always surface.

The hard part now is not to let all the little emotional quirks shoot into your head like I have. It's difficult to keep the little man in your head from asking "So why wasn't I good enough?" or "Why should I try this with anyone else? It failed the first time". Like I said, even after all this time it's still hard for me. There's still the underlying distrust of people, wondering if they're being truthful, if they really like me or just putting up with me, and if I have any real friends at all.

All of this, just because she couldn't have been truthful from the beginning.

The "spare some feelings" line is crap. It doesn't spare any feelings. Lying like that destroyed an already frail psyche. For your sake, JoeMC, I hope you follow UsTwo's advice (my god, I'm agreeing with him...

). Try your best to enjoy what college has to offer. Party like there's no tomorrow, enjoy life, and remember the moments that matter most. If all else fails, find trust in yourself and who you are. Be who you want to be - don't try to go around impressing people or trying to get people to like you. Allow them to become your friends by allowing them to become your friends, that is, don't force it. In time, another girl will come into your life, and by that point you should be more worldly, be more knowledgable, and be a better human being. In the end, you'll realize how lucky you are to be able to see the dark side before the light and you'll be even more grateful for the loving person that you'll eventually end up with.

07-20-2005, 01:37 PM	#13 (permalink)
TM875 Addict Location: Amish-land, PA	The future's gonna be rough, at least for a little bit. You're gonna have to fight feelings of inadequacy and distrust. This same thing happened to me. Yes, it's been a year, but the little inside pain twinge is still there. Don't get me wrong - I don't want her back (hindsight is 20/20, isn't it?) and I certainly am not upset about it being over (I might have ended it soon, or at least let it dwindle), but the anger stems to how she did it. Just started dating another guy, without telling me. It's cowardly and cruel. And that's the real reason she did it. She was afraid to tell you - too scared to face the truth. And, in the end, the truth will almost always surface. The hard part now is not to let all the little emotional quirks shoot into your head like I have. It's difficult to keep the little man in your head from asking "So why wasn't I good enough?" or "Why should I try this with anyone else? It failed the first time". Like I said, even after all this time it's still hard for me. There's still the underlying distrust of people, wondering if they're being truthful, if they really like me or just putting up with me, and if I have any real friends at all. All of this, just because she couldn't have been truthful from the beginning. The "spare some feelings" line is crap. It doesn't spare any feelings. Lying like that destroyed an already frail psyche. For your sake, JoeMC, I hope you follow UsTwo's advice (my god, I'm agreeing with him... ). Try your best to enjoy what college has to offer. Party like there's no tomorrow, enjoy life, and remember the moments that matter most. If all else fails, find trust in yourself and who you are. Be who you want to be - don't try to go around impressing people or trying to get people to like you. Allow them to become your friends by allowing them to become your friends, that is, don't force it. In time, another girl will come into your life, and by that point you should be more worldly, be more knowledgable, and be a better human being. In the end, you'll realize how lucky you are to be able to see the dark side before the light and you'll be even more grateful for the loving person that you'll eventually end up with. __________________ "I've made only one mistake in my life. But I made it over and over and over. That was saying 'yes' when I meant 'no'. Forgive me."