cheyennedawn,
first of all, thanks for giving us the chance to lend our advice
I wanted to note that i think you should see your gyno.
It is common for some women to have very thick hymens (that are not nessasarily broken by tampons) and they are thick enough to require the gyno. to make a incision so that the woman can have sex. Without medical help, for some women, there is no way a penis can penetrate.
I would firmly suugest you see a gyno about this before you attempt again.
at any rate, my first time did hurt . . . but not an extreme amount and i was enjoying it by the next day . . . however, i was very relaxed and we used tons and tons of lube and foreplay before we did penetration.
How is your boyfriend reacting to this? Is he being supportive i hope?
sometimes, it's tough being a girl!
Keep us updated!
Sweetpea