Originally Posted by Cynthetiq

The logic was that my parents did not wish to contribute to us in that manner. No Sex in the House was the rule. I spent lots of money on staying in hotel rooms at age 17. It doesn't have to have any logic. It is just what they decided they want the expectation to be. It was set, and consequences ensued for breaking them.

What they were willing to allow was underage drinking and smoking in their house. We were allowed to have parties of friends come over and drink, but no one was allowed to leave if they had anything to drink. It was a well respected rule in our house by many of my friends. Those that did not respect it were not allowed to participate in future events.

Parents can pick and choose what they wish to allow and compromise on how they see fit. I agree with you on looking to compromise, but I'm only willing to do so with EQUALS, thus a child parent relationship is not equal to me and thus not subject to my rules of compromise.