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Mondak · 07-17-2005, 03:28 PM

I think a lot of the problem with situations like this is that people tend to take your decision as an indictment that you think THEIR path is wrong. No matter how you phrase it most people are just uncomfortable when anyone deviates from their path. I think the most frightening thing is that most people reach their decision on this subject with relativly little thought compared to how important a decision it truely is. For a brief moment, a synapse fires somewhere deep down that tells them that you DID think rationally about your choice and all they really know is that they are angry.

When it comes down to it, they are mad at themselves. Crazy, but I really have seen this in many areas, but most often in family makeup, religion and politics. Something in people is wired to follow and when they see something that is not following, they are very angry.

How to tell them? My approach is not the right or easy path: be completly direct and let them choke on it. "We are not having kids. Pass me the asparagus."

07-17-2005, 03:28 PM	#43 (permalink)
Mondak Industrialist Location: Southern California	I think a lot of the problem with situations like this is that people tend to take your decision as an indictment that you think THEIR path is wrong. No matter how you phrase it most people are just uncomfortable when anyone deviates from their path. I think the most frightening thing is that most people reach their decision on this subject with relativly little thought compared to how important a decision it truely is. For a brief moment, a synapse fires somewhere deep down that tells them that you DID think rationally about your choice and all they really know is that they are angry. When it comes down to it, they are mad at themselves. Crazy, but I really have seen this in many areas, but most often in family makeup, religion and politics. Something in people is wired to follow and when they see something that is not following, they are very angry. How to tell them? My approach is not the right or easy path: be completly direct and let them choke on it. "We are not having kids. Pass me the asparagus." __________________ All truth passes through three stages: First it is ridiculed Second, it is violently opposed and Third, it is accepted as self-evident. ARTHUR SCHOPENHAUER (1788-1860)