Originally Posted by bad jane

it is very unlikely i could ever have children, perhaps with lots of money time, procedures and meds i could make it happen--but even that is a bit of a longshot.

as for why i might eventually attempt it rather than just adopting--it's not just about having a child with my genes, it's also about the experiences that come with pregnancy and childbirth. as for wanting a child with my genes, that's true too. for me, it's less about passing on my own genes than creating a child that is half mine and half my partner. for me genetics is secondary, but i do think for a lot of people, it's more important. my step-mother has been in my life since i was young, but there has always been a connection between us missing and i do believe it comes from the fact that i'm not "hers." she has a biological niece that she feels a very strong connection with--because she is blood. there are family heirlooms that will go to my cousin because she is blood and i am not. my step-mother loves me very much, but there is no question that our relationship would be more if she were my biological parent. i barely know my biological mother, but she is the woman i consider my mother because she gave birth to me. she may not be my parent or the one i call mom, but she's still my mother.

adoption is a wonderful thing, and if i have kids that is most likely the route i'd take. but if i had my choice, i'd have biological children as well.