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Originally Posted by maleficent
What aggravates me the most, and I truly don't understand it, is the need for that biological child, where couples and individuals will spend all sorts of money and time and have all sorts of procedures done, and screw around with hormones, to have a biological child. THere are so many children out there who need homes -- ya want one bad enough -- adopt.
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it is very unlikely i could ever have children, perhaps with lots of money time, procedures and meds i could make it happen--but even that is a bit of a longshot.
as for why i might eventually attempt it rather than just adopting--it's not just about having a child with my genes, it's also about the experiences that come with pregnancy and childbirth. as for wanting a child with my genes, that's true too. for me, it's less about passing on my own genes than creating a child that is half mine and half my partner. for me genetics is secondary, but i do think for a lot of people, it's more important. my step-mother has been in my life since i was young, but there has always been a connection between us missing and i do believe it comes from the fact that i'm not "hers." she has a biological niece that she feels a very strong connection with--because she is blood. there are family heirlooms that will go to my cousin because she is blood and i am not. my step-mother loves me very much, but there is no question that our relationship would be more if she were my biological parent. i barely know my biological mother, but she
is the woman i consider my mother because she gave birth to me. she may not be my parent or the one i call mom, but she's still my mother.
adoption is a wonderful thing, and if i have kids that is most likely the route i'd take. but if i had my choice, i'd have biological children as well.