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pocon1 · 07-15-2005, 06:42 PM

Well I am gratified to see that some of you are following this thread. I hope it has been some help to you all as well as to me. The last time I posted was Saturday night. My mom passed away on Sunday morning at 10:30. she was surrounded by me, my sister, my wife and my stepfather. I was in the other room reading when my wife came in to tell me that mom was dying. I came into the room and we held hands and watched her go. Her breathing was very fast but shallow. She was not getting much air. Then she stopped breathing, took one more breath after 30 seconds, and then she died. After that, we started calling people and the funeral home. We had a couple people over when the funeral home arrived, so Gail the nurse stayed with them while we went into the backyard. Some things just don't need to be seen. After that, friends of the family stopped by and offered their condolences. When I would go in to just sit alone with my mom's body, I would kiss her on the forehead and tell her goodbye. Her body just got colder, and was very pale. That image will always be with me, but also the other images of my mom at the beach, or canoeing, or in her karate uniform. My wife and I went home in the afternoon. I took Monday and Tuesday off from work. Monday was a me day. I rode my mountain bike in the early afternoon, then later washed, polished, and waxed one of my cars. Tuesday we went to King's Dominion which is a big amusement park that is only a couple of hours away. It was hot as hell, with temps in the 90's and oppressive humidity, but the park was empty and there were some kickass new rides. I went with my stepmother, stepsister, sister, brother-in-law, nephew, and my stepbrother's daughter. We had a good time, and my nephew had a real breakthrough in his fear of roller coasters. At the end of the night he tore up the park with the biggest rides they had. The coolest new one is the hypersonic xlc. It launches you from 0-80 mph in 1.8 seconds, and then hurls you straight up and over a hump with vertical track on each side. You have never accelerated this fast unless you have driven a top fuel dragster or been launched off a Navy carrier. My mom's death has not hit me very hard. It has mostly made me sad. I think it is because I have known she was going to die, so I had already spent some emotion before she died. I have mostly been sad and quiet the past week, but not overly so. I went to the company picnic on wednesday. I have been with the company for 3 months, and they seem to be a good group of people. Today, Friday, it did hit me a little. My family was over to celebrate my birthday which is Sunday, the day after my mom's memorial service. I am going to be 32 years old. It was a good get together, but everything was tinged by a mild grief. Afterwards, I talked with my sister about what she wanted my to talk about mom during the memorial. Now I sit here dwelling on what I want to talk about.

07-15-2005, 06:42 PM	#57 (permalink)
pocon1 Banned	Well I am gratified to see that some of you are following this thread. I hope it has been some help to you all as well as to me. The last time I posted was Saturday night. My mom passed away on Sunday morning at 10:30. she was surrounded by me, my sister, my wife and my stepfather. I was in the other room reading when my wife came in to tell me that mom was dying. I came into the room and we held hands and watched her go. Her breathing was very fast but shallow. She was not getting much air. Then she stopped breathing, took one more breath after 30 seconds, and then she died. After that, we started calling people and the funeral home. We had a couple people over when the funeral home arrived, so Gail the nurse stayed with them while we went into the backyard. Some things just don't need to be seen. After that, friends of the family stopped by and offered their condolences. When I would go in to just sit alone with my mom's body, I would kiss her on the forehead and tell her goodbye. Her body just got colder, and was very pale. That image will always be with me, but also the other images of my mom at the beach, or canoeing, or in her karate uniform. My wife and I went home in the afternoon. I took Monday and Tuesday off from work. Monday was a me day. I rode my mountain bike in the early afternoon, then later washed, polished, and waxed one of my cars. Tuesday we went to King's Dominion which is a big amusement park that is only a couple of hours away. It was hot as hell, with temps in the 90's and oppressive humidity, but the park was empty and there were some kickass new rides. I went with my stepmother, stepsister, sister, brother-in-law, nephew, and my stepbrother's daughter. We had a good time, and my nephew had a real breakthrough in his fear of roller coasters. At the end of the night he tore up the park with the biggest rides they had. The coolest new one is the hypersonic xlc. It launches you from 0-80 mph in 1.8 seconds, and then hurls you straight up and over a hump with vertical track on each side. You have never accelerated this fast unless you have driven a top fuel dragster or been launched off a Navy carrier. My mom's death has not hit me very hard. It has mostly made me sad. I think it is because I have known she was going to die, so I had already spent some emotion before she died. I have mostly been sad and quiet the past week, but not overly so. I went to the company picnic on wednesday. I have been with the company for 3 months, and they seem to be a good group of people. Today, Friday, it did hit me a little. My family was over to celebrate my birthday which is Sunday, the day after my mom's memorial service. I am going to be 32 years old. It was a good get together, but everything was tinged by a mild grief. Afterwards, I talked with my sister about what she wanted my to talk about mom during the memorial. Now I sit here dwelling on what I want to talk about.