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Wow... that's really not very fun. When you make plans, you make plans. It would clarify things a lot of this guy admitted you are his fall-back and work from there. You should let them know that you'd like to be their primary plan at some point, and ask far enough in advance that they have no choice - but then again, you seem to be asking far enough in advance.
If it were me, I would accept my role as a fall-back to this couple and focus on finding other friends.
It's much better for friendships if you know you can rely on one another - and that includes knowing that the plans you make will happen. Maybe they will be more willing to stick to the plans when they realize you're not always going to be available to fall back on. Ask for firm, definite plans. End the invite with, "Let me know for certain tomorrow so I can ask someone else in the case that you can't come." And if they bail then - call them on it.
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