Being friends, with your friend's crush
Hope i'm not repeating anything, but I wasn't sure how to go about searching for something like this.
Anyway, I met a girl (We'll name her Y) through one of my friends (We'll call him X). At the time, everyone in our group thought that X was trying to go out with another girl that wasn't Y. At first, I became friends with Y because X told me that things weren't quite peachy-keen between him and Y. I wanted to help X, so I thought "why not?"
After learning WHY things weren't quite right between X and Y, things suddenly became awkward. It turns out that the girl X has been trying to get with, is Y. This became awkward because Y and I developed a pretty good (platonic) friendship (albeit a rather quick one).
This didn't become troublesome until I was at Y's place (it turns out Y lives extremely close to me) and X called her. He ended up talking to me and said "hey man, why're you at her place?" I'm sure he didn't mean anything by it, but it got me thinking. Should I really be good friends with a girl that my friend is trying to go out with?
My original intention (and my current one) was to HELP X. On the one hand, being good friends with Y allows me to point out the good things about X. But on the other, X might get frustrated simply because Y and I spend a fair amount of time together and chatting. I'm afraid that maybe this will discourage X and at the same time, ruin our friendship (the one between X and myself).
Thanks for any advice/help!
Hopefully this isn't too confusing. I'll need to check this post over some time. I'm too tired.
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