pan, i think it's easy to say "let's work harder to get along" than it is to actually do it. case in point, Roach made a comment in 163 that totally lit you up.
rather than try to 'get along', which to me means trying to understand what the other is saying, and why, you went off.
I work hard to try to understand what Roach is saying, I don't always succeed (I wonder if I'm over 50%
), but I understood his basic point on that one. I sure didn't read it the way you did. I mention my reaction, because I think your reading of that was an example of reading in the worst possible light. We all do it. There are posters here who I'm most liable to read that way...
I'm not trying to pick on you, I'm just suggesting that 'getting along' starts at home. I work at it, but it's frickin hard...