|
Guess I missed this thread the first time 'round.
It's nice to see that regardless of your opinion, most of you seem to be on the same page with your spouse. That's obviously the most important thing. Jess and I are also on the same page - we definitely do not want kids right now, but haven't closed the book "forever." It's something that I think we'll revisit a number of years from now. Apart from enjoying our lives the way they are, neither of us currently feel like we're in a place with our careers where we're satisfied - there's so much more we want to do that would have to be either placed on hold or discarded altogether were we to have kids at this point.
I sometimes think of the greater picture - how none of us would be here if not for somebody making the decision to have kids - and whether I have some kind of greater cosmic responsibility, as hokey as that sounds, to give somebody the opportunity to experience all that life has to offer. It wouldn't guide my decision wholly, but I do definitely think about it.
For now, we are content living as a couple - having the freedom to do whatever we want, whenever we want (so to speak). I'm not saying it couldn't change or won't change in the future. I can't say how I'll feel in five years, and I refuse to make a steadfast decision now about it.
__________________
You have to laugh at yourself...because you'd cry your eyes out if you didn't. - Emily Saliers
|