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I had a really hard time losing my virginity - it just hurt too much. I had already been living with my boyfriend for about three months, and trying regularly, before we managed it. As it turns out I finally did it when I was drunk in a blackout, and the only way I even know it had happened for sure was when we tried again the next day and the problem was mysteriously gone. Afterwards I did have a bit of vaginismus as well - that may have been a contributor to the problem, although I thought it was a reaction to the stress I went through trying to break my hymen. That problem just kind of faded away after a few months. Years later I learned that "tough hymens" run in my family - my mother also had to get drunk, and my grandmother actually had to have hers removed by a doctor. So rest assurred you are not alone. The hymen is a funny thing. I had a friend who was very sexually active, and had been for years, and she developed vaginal pain and irritation - when she went to the doctor, she was told that there was actually a little piece of her hymen that was still attached and was causing her problems.
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