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I find that the truth works. I can't lie to her, for one, but even if I could I wouldn't.
*Cheesy sentimentality coming up*
When I look into her eyes and tell her how beautiful she is, she knows I mean it. I've never been able to fake that level of sincerity and I'm not sure anyone can. We've gotten to know each other well enough that she knows the look I give her when I want her body and I think she also takes it as a compliment that nearly a year in, I still get hard for her at a look and the smallest touch gives me goosebumps.
If I really want her to feel appreciated (which I nearly always do, because she is) I focus on details. Telling her she's beautiful is one thing, but it's sort of vague. So instead I'll say 'I love the way your eyes light up when you smile' or 'I can't keep myself from running my fingers through your hair, it's so beautiful and I always want to touch it'. Giving her specifics let's her know that I'm not just saying it because it's what's expected; I'm taking the time to really admire her and telling her the things I like most about her.
It's not always physical either. I told her several times how proud I was of her for going back to college and I tell her how great it is that she's doing the job she is (working with autistic children). I told her just the other day how great I think it is that I can discuss Hemingway or Dickens with her and I love that she can trump me on either one (although, in my defence, she is and english major).
Having said that, don't discount saying things like 'nice ass!' either. That seems to work in the right situation and after a certain comfort level is reached. While not one you want to bust out on the first date, after you've been with a girl for a while that sort of frankness is refreshing. I think it works because you're not trying to be smooth or get something from her, but rather just appreciating what's there for it's own sake.
In our case, I make all manner of comments about her physically because I think she deserves to feel as beautiful as she looks to me. She's never outright said it, but I think she's a bit insecure sometimes, because she has that sort of curvy body that I love but goes against the mainstream. I make it a point to compliment her in some fashion at least once per day, when I'm with her, although it's never forced.
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I wake up in the morning more tired than before I slept
I get through cryin' and I'm sadder than before I wept
I get through thinkin' now, and the thoughts have left my head
I get through speakin' and I can't remember, not a word that I said
- Ben Harper, Show Me A Little Shame
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