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Originally Posted by clavus
Clavus' method for imparting difficult truths to children -
Start by telling the truth in a vague or general manner. Allow the kid to ask questions. They will generally ask for more clarity, more specifics. Answer the questions truthfully. Answer specifically what is asked, not what you think is being asked. (listen, goddammit) Allow the kid to get to get as much information as he/she is comfortable with.
If your kids are like mine, expect follow-up questions days or weeks later. Answer them.
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This is excellent advice. Children are a lot brighter than we give them credit for. They will ask the questions they need the answers to, and once they are "full" they will stop. You wouldn't want to overwhelm a very young child by explaining too much - this method allows them to take in what they need to in order to understand a difficult situation.
Well said, Clavus.