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It depends a lot on the context.
I expect students to call me Miss Nakamura or Ma'am. If they substitute Mrs. for Miss, that's fine, as I am married, and people of all ages tend to turn Miss into Mrs. without thinking. I sometimes have to break my middle schoolers of the habit of calling me "Dude", which seems to be their universal form of direct address.
Likewise, I'll sometimes get students in my college classes, particularly middle-aged women and male jocks, who want to call me "hon" or "sweetie", despite my making it crystal clear that I am to be addressed as Miss Nakamura. Partly, this is, I think, because in that setting I tend to be assumed to be quite a bit younger than my actual age--most people upon first meeting me assume I'm a traditional student, closer to 20 than to 30. I insist on the formal form of address because I see the familiar as disrespectful in that setting, and often sexist. I doubt that these people are addressing their coaches or the middle-aged and elderly men who make up most of the faculty as "hon", and to do otherwise with me merely because of my apparent age and sex is disrespectful.
Outside of a professional setting, I prefer adults with whom I have an existing casual relationship to call me Gilda, and all others Miss Nakamura.
I address students (regardless of age) and children by their first names. I call adullts [title][lastname] unless I've been invited to use their first name. With service personnel I use "sir" or "ma'am", as I was taught growing up that it's impolite to use familiar terms or a first name with an adult unless you've been invited to do so. The fact that a person is waiting on me doesn't change that he/she is an adult worthy of respect and I am not his/her immediate supervisor.
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