I can honestly say I dont remember major pain....and my mother never allowed me to use tampons, so the first time I had sex, it was the first time anything had been up there
Have you tried different positions? I find I have to be EXREMELY and I stress EXTREMELY aroused and wet for it to be comfortable with me on the bottom. Doggie isnt possible at all at any stage, it hurts to damn bad. On top is the best for me, NO pain ever that way.