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pocon1 · 07-04-2005, 06:43 PM

She has been battling cancer for a long time now, but her time is limited, to the point of hours or a few days. If you want the specifics, she has mutiple myeloma, a type of bone marrow cancer. She is now on hospice, so she is getting a hospital bed for the house and she has liquid morphine for a pain reliever. We have a dnr order because there is obviously no hope of return or treatment at this point. My wife has been going over during the day to help my stepfather, and my sister is also in from Arizona. I just want to say that my stepfather has been absolutely amazing. He has been able to take all of the pain and suffering that comes from being the person closest to the one dying, and handle it without breaking down. He has been a rock and has cared so much for my mom. I am in awe of him. My dad also died of cancer when I was 18, (31 now), and I watched the stress my stepmother went through caring for my dad. She would break down and fight with him when he was out of it, and it was very hard on her. She was normal. I don't know how my stepfather does it. I also want to say that my wife has been so supportive of me and my family as well. She is currently taking summer classes as a student so she hes been going over during the day to help out, because my mom has been going downhill so quickly the past couple of weeks. The past few days her diet has been some glucerna and a little diet soda. Her cataracts keep her from being able to see well, and she has shrunk to so small. Her teeth are stained red because her lips are cracked and bleeding. Her 86 year old mother was in this weekend and she looks better than my mother.
Anyways, it could be tomorrow, or shortly after. My stepfather told me last night that he and my mom want to be cremated ( I asked if he wanted to die first, haha) and he said that he did not know what to do with the ashes. then it hit him to take her ashes to Haleakala crater in Hawaii. Growing up we used to visit Maui and it was so beautiful. The crater is amazing and one trip we got permission to hike in and spend the night in a park cabin inside the crater. So maybe we will all make the trip out together someday.
My sister has been assembling a board of pictures of my mom in anticipation of the funeral. She has also been planning the notice for the paper. I can think about what I want to say hear, so you all can listen in to my eulogy. I am tired of crying while writing this, so I am going to sign off and go to bed. I will post more later.

07-04-2005, 06:43 PM	#1 (permalink)
pocon1 Banned	So my mom is dying She has been battling cancer for a long time now, but her time is limited, to the point of hours or a few days. If you want the specifics, she has mutiple myeloma, a type of bone marrow cancer. She is now on hospice, so she is getting a hospital bed for the house and she has liquid morphine for a pain reliever. We have a dnr order because there is obviously no hope of return or treatment at this point. My wife has been going over during the day to help my stepfather, and my sister is also in from Arizona. I just want to say that my stepfather has been absolutely amazing. He has been able to take all of the pain and suffering that comes from being the person closest to the one dying, and handle it without breaking down. He has been a rock and has cared so much for my mom. I am in awe of him. My dad also died of cancer when I was 18, (31 now), and I watched the stress my stepmother went through caring for my dad. She would break down and fight with him when he was out of it, and it was very hard on her. She was normal. I don't know how my stepfather does it. I also want to say that my wife has been so supportive of me and my family as well. She is currently taking summer classes as a student so she hes been going over during the day to help out, because my mom has been going downhill so quickly the past couple of weeks. The past few days her diet has been some glucerna and a little diet soda. Her cataracts keep her from being able to see well, and she has shrunk to so small. Her teeth are stained red because her lips are cracked and bleeding. Her 86 year old mother was in this weekend and she looks better than my mother. Anyways, it could be tomorrow, or shortly after. My stepfather told me last night that he and my mom want to be cremated ( I asked if he wanted to die first, haha) and he said that he did not know what to do with the ashes. then it hit him to take her ashes to Haleakala crater in Hawaii. Growing up we used to visit Maui and it was so beautiful. The crater is amazing and one trip we got permission to hike in and spend the night in a park cabin inside the crater. So maybe we will all make the trip out together someday. My sister has been assembling a board of pictures of my mom in anticipation of the funeral. She has also been planning the notice for the paper. I can think about what I want to say hear, so you all can listen in to my eulogy. I am tired of crying while writing this, so I am going to sign off and go to bed. I will post more later.