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I think a big danger is that young men who are constantly exposed to these fake, always-willing women start to have unreal expectations from real women, which makes them phobic about relationships.” Also, she surmises that cyberporn may play a role in what she describes as “the truly stunning things women today feel obliged to do sexually with a man—whether it’s something like anal penetration or simply not bothering to please themselves.”
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“I think it’s made me more picky,” he says. “These girls on the computer are just so hot. Obviously, you want to get with a girl like that. So you may be at a bar with a girl, and she’s really cool, but she’s not a ‘10,’ you know? She’s cool, she’s cute, but you quickly start to notice flaws.”
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The unreal expectations set by porn, and the overinflated sense of what a guy "needs" in terms of appearance - both of those things are points I have been raising about porn frequently.
I personally think that if it's covert in a relationship, if it's hidden from the partner and you know it would upset them, then you shouldn't do it. Porn is ok in and of itself, and I think it's cool to share porn for erotic purposes... but if you're doing it and you need to hide it, and you can't stop? Something is horribly wrong.
Also, if there's EVER a point when you'd rather look at porn and masturbate rather than having sex with your real life partner, you're headed down a problematic road.
I feel that compulsive porn viewing really does speak to a dissatisfaction with your partner or an ego issue within yourself.