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Originally Posted by Biscuit Buns
I'd just go with the flow. I wouldn't push it, I wouldn't avoid it. If it happens, it happens and if it does, you're responsible for letting her know how you feel (just as it's her responsibility to let you know how she feels).
I hope it all works out.
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That's exactly what i'm doing..Just going with the flow. All the intimate feelings i had for her are dying down.
I spilled everything that i feel towards her already..And i told her that i'm telling you this because i want you to know, She hasn't and i don't think she is going to open up and tell me how she feels..Which has kind of turned me away from her in a more than friendship kind of way.
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Originally Posted by kangaeru
It's ALL in your head. Do you realize there is no such thing as reality? There is ONLY the world as we define it to ourselves, and THAT is our reality. We all live in our own little world of different truths and values. If in your reality, you aren't cool, people watch you and make you feel akward, you can't talk to girls etc, IT WILL BE SO--and by your own hand. You can either define yourself to people passively or actively. You can sit in a corner and let people draw conclusions about you, which you can then wallow in, or you can go out and show people things you want them to know about you, and actively shape the image they have of you. It is ALL in your power.
Musashi, one of the greatest and purest warriors ever to walk the earth, wrote in his book, "To win any battle, you must fight as if you were already dead". You must act like you have nothing to lose. If someone responds negatively to you, makes you feel bad, doesn't tell you what you want to hear, etc, they were already lost before you even started, so you're not losing anything from them not warming up to you. You have everything to gain, and nothing to lose. When you can act with this mentality, you will be free from self doubt, second guessing, and all these other things which are bringing you down.
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All your advice has put some new thoughts in my head, I think alot of it has to do with what the situation is..I do have days where i feel great when i'm out with friends doing whatever, I think alot of it stems from when i spend time alone, I don't like being alone...But the more time that i spend alone..The less i wanna be around people. Once i get out of the house on the weekend's with friends..That slowly goes away..If that makes any sense at all.
I hope you don't mind, I'm gonna put the quote from Musashi in my signature..I like it.
Can the colour of clothes you wear actually show what kind of person you are? I like alot of dark clothing..I love black, But i also love white..But for the most part..Most of my clothes are on the darker side. I'm just wondering if maybe my choices in darker clothing says something about me..Or maybe not?