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Originally Posted by IC3
I usually don't like to open up to people and let them know things that i want to talk about, Usually because I think that they could care less..Not because it's me, Just because. But i know that's all in my head..or mostly anyways.
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It's ALL in your head. Do you realize there is no such thing as reality? There is ONLY the world as we define it to ourselves, and THAT is our reality. We all live in our own little world of different truths and values. If in your reality, you aren't cool, people watch you and make you feel akward, you can't talk to girls etc, IT WILL BE SO--and by your own hand. You can either define yourself to people passively or actively. You can sit in a corner and let people draw conclusions about you, which you can then wallow in, or you can go out and show people things you want them to know about you, and actively shape the image they have of you. It is ALL in your power.
Musashi, one of the greatest and purest warriors ever to walk the earth, wrote in his book, "To win any battle, you must fight as if you were already dead". You must act like you have nothing to lose. If someone responds negatively to you, makes you feel bad, doesn't tell you what you want to hear, etc, they were already lost before you even started, so you're not losing anything from them not warming up to you. You have everything to gain, and nothing to lose. When you can act with this mentality, you will be free from self doubt, second guessing, and all these other things which are bringing you down.