Originally Posted by kangaeru

IC3...know thyself. It always comes back to it, with matters like these.

You need to find that place in yourself where you can pull confidence from when you're feeling shy, nervous, or akward. You are shy because you have trepidation about what to say to a girl, how she will react, and all these chains of events you have no control over. So you do nothing, none of these possible scenarios play out, and it's game over.

You say in your post, "i'm just average", "sorry for taking so long", "my luck with girls goes one way or another..", etc. Please, read these carefully. You're short selling yourself, apologizing for telling us your thoughts, and admitting that you feel your relationships are out of your control, and influenced by luck. Everything I quoted you on there is contributing to the hole you're in now. You DO have the power to influence your relationships. Say you do, and you do. Perceive that you can do extraordinary things, and you shall be able to do them. It's this second guessing, defeatist, unconfident attitude that has gotten you where you are. There's no reason you can't change that, even over night. All you have to do is take a hard look, recognize what needs changing, visualize the image you want, and make it happen baby. Live the dream you have for yourself in your head. The only person who can stop you, is you, if you give up, and admit failure.

Getting back tot he topic a bit, if you're hitting on a girl just remember, "I'm going to say and do whatever I feel, and if this girl isn't feeling me, it's her loss, and I won't have to see her again". Once you get into it, and you just let yourself take over and you're confident in how you carry yourself...you'll find everyone else is going along with you and believing what you say and treating you different...because people are attracted to someone who has confidence in themselves and their actions.

If you want to post your picture, or post a link to it, do it. Those people who think it is shallow and vain can think it's shallow and vain all they want--what's it to you? This is a very open minded forum, and many people including myself will think no less of you, and will give you honest opinions and advice. Of course there is the fear people will not find you attractive and will let you know it. But we're all just 'other people', and 100 of us will have 101 different opinions anyways.