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s3b · 06-26-2005, 06:11 PM

ive been really close friends with this guy for the past two years. when we met i was dating someone, and a few months later he got into a relationship right as mine was ending. he had always openly told me he thought i was pretty, in a NON-hitting-on-me way. we remained close on and off for two years, and for the past few months we've got a lot closer. he's still with his girlfriend of about 18 months now, but i just dont know what is going on with ME and him.

he drives me

and im always

around him like mad crazy. our friendship consists of making fun of each other, joking around, being immature, calling each other stupid & immature, the typical 5 year old type of flirtatious friendship. it's when the alcohol kicks in that we actually get physical. dont get me wrong, we never "cross the line" but basically push it to the max before its considered crossing the line. we'll hold hands at rock concerts (drunk of course), hug more, be more physical, express our emotions of "how lucky we feel to have met each other & to be such great friends", & how much we'll miss each other next year when im off studying abroad for the year.

i guess im just trying to figure out if he actually "feels" something for me, or if its just that he likes the attention of having another girl on the side to entertain him (since its not really cheating) .. cause he has been with the gf for a year and a half and relationships get boring and sometimes you need something on the side. i know there's no possibility now since ill be gone for a year, but i just wonder if it crosses his mind. he randomly once told me when he was drunk that "he still felt happy when he was with her, but that he felt there was more to love, and that he could never break up with her b/c shes his first love and no matter what he'd have to wait for her to break up with him" (we've never talked about US before. its just an assumption nothing is there past friendship?)

I guess I'm just curious because.. he might take a 2 week vacation with my friend and possibly a few of his (which i dont know) in a rather paradise-like location...in a faroff country and I just don't know whether or not I'll be able to practice self restraint once the alcohol kicks in and we're off in another country far away from everything, including his girlfriend. If I heard "he's not interested, just likes the attention" it would help me get over it perhaps? but then if not, I just really want one night with him to get it out of my system!!!!!!! just one amazingly night of blaring sexual chemistry .. and then sort of goodbye (well for a year while im abroad) and if there really is something between us we can figure it out when i get back?

so am i just imagining that there is more than friendship.. or is there? im sucha fool...help! =)

06-26-2005, 06:11 PM	#1 (permalink)
s3b Upright	just best friends, or is it secretly more? ive been really close friends with this guy for the past two years. when we met i was dating someone, and a few months later he got into a relationship right as mine was ending. he had always openly told me he thought i was pretty, in a NON-hitting-on-me way. we remained close on and off for two years, and for the past few months we've got a lot closer. he's still with his girlfriend of about 18 months now, but i just dont know what is going on with ME and him. he drives me and im always around him like mad crazy. our friendship consists of making fun of each other, joking around, being immature, calling each other stupid & immature, the typical 5 year old type of flirtatious friendship. it's when the alcohol kicks in that we actually get physical. dont get me wrong, we never "cross the line" but basically push it to the max before its considered crossing the line. we'll hold hands at rock concerts (drunk of course), hug more, be more physical, express our emotions of "how lucky we feel to have met each other & to be such great friends", & how much we'll miss each other next year when im off studying abroad for the year. i guess im just trying to figure out if he actually "feels" something for me, or if its just that he likes the attention of having another girl on the side to entertain him (since its not really cheating) .. cause he has been with the gf for a year and a half and relationships get boring and sometimes you need something on the side. i know there's no possibility now since ill be gone for a year, but i just wonder if it crosses his mind. he randomly once told me when he was drunk that "he still felt happy when he was with her, but that he felt there was more to love, and that he could never break up with her b/c shes his first love and no matter what he'd have to wait for her to break up with him" (we've never talked about US before. its just an assumption nothing is there past friendship?) I guess I'm just curious because.. he might take a 2 week vacation with my friend and possibly a few of his (which i dont know) in a rather paradise-like location...in a faroff country and I just don't know whether or not I'll be able to practice self restraint once the alcohol kicks in and we're off in another country far away from everything, including his girlfriend. If I heard "he's not interested, just likes the attention" it would help me get over it perhaps? but then if not, I just really want one night with him to get it out of my system!!!!!!! just one amazingly night of blaring sexual chemistry .. and then sort of goodbye (well for a year while im abroad) and if there really is something between us we can figure it out when i get back? so am i just imagining that there is more than friendship.. or is there? im sucha fool...help! =) Last edited by s3b; 06-26-2005 at 11:24 PM..