asaris

This is what is commonly known as logical thinking. If I believe p, and you believe ~p, one of us must be wrong. Since I believe p, I'm likely to believe that you are wrong.

But religion, or Christianity at least (and I'm pretty sure this applies to all three of the monotheistic religions) is not just about compassion and wisdom, but also about holiness. Depending on what you mean by 'being open to your fellow man', this may or may not preclude that. In any case, we are taught to love even our enemies -- and few non-Christians are really our enemies. Hate is surely not an essential part of Christianity, and I feel bad for you if you've only met hateful Christians.

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"Die Deutschen meinen, daß die Kraft sich in Härte und Grausamkeit offenbaren müsse, sie unterwerfen sich dann gerne und mit Bewunderung:[...]. Daß es Kraft giebt in der Milde und Stille, das glauben sie nicht leicht."

"The Germans believe that power must reveal itself in hardness and cruelty and then submit themselves gladly and with admiration[...]. They do not believe readily that there is power in meekness and calm."

-- Friedrich Nietzsche