chickentribs

See, I hear that statement, actually I say that exact statement all of the time, and arrive at the exact opposite conclusion as the author of this book. Who is making marriage all about sex, the person who sees it as natural and comfortable to want to be close with somebody you have fallen in love with, or the person who makes intercourse a trophy to be given out only after you get the "big prize"?

In fairness, I have never read or even heard of this book until this thread, but it strikes me as the same worn path of The Rules a few years ago. There is no value in spending time with anyone unless you are going to marry them, and the whole relationship becomes a Quid Pro Quo where you commoditze your affection (and for many women their bodies) that gets sold for a marriage license. It may be a little lonely right now, TransAm, but think of it as healthy Darwinism, you're thinning the herd of women who would drive you crazy. You don't want to marry a girl who has learned how to barter with sex before she has even gotten to 1st base!

If the point of the book is that it is ok to be alone - then great, but it sounds like he wants it both ways. "It's ok if you don't want to get married, but if you do it's so earth shattering that you can't even kiss until you have the contract in hand." I am sure he is selling plenty of copies to the Federal Government to hand out at the Abstinence Classes they have been force feeding to the increasing numbers of pregnant teens, but I digress.

Martinguerre - I always enjoy how you demonstrate that faith and social concern don't have to be adversaries. Thanks...

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