Suave -
First of all, my comments were more directly in response to these statements (and only tangentially to yours):
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Originally Posted by KungFuGuy
i was always thought it was appropriate to use a lighter handshake with women but I guess I was mistaken. I thought it was chivalrous and that it stemmed from the fact that physically a woman's hand is usually noticeably smaller than mine.
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Originally Posted by Konichiwaneko
For a Guy, full handshake palm in palm, and a steady grip.
For a female, her four fingers in my palm with my thumb over them, and a bow of the head.
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I suppose I used too many of my words to stress the wrong point. I was more concerned about the idea of having separate handshakes for men and women than I was about measuring the pressure and meeting it.
Second, I wasn't asking about actually measuring pressure with a gauge (as I thought was obvious enough). I don't think it actually matters how much they are squeezing you. I find that a person's hand can only take so much of
my pressure before I'm grinding their knuckles together. That has only a little to do with how much they are squeezing back, but a lot more to do with the consistency of the flesh on their hand. To repeat myself, I was interested in knowing whether or not the men who said they measured what they were getting were measuring the hand or the squeeze. I apologize profusely for conflating my two very separate points.
Third, I'm sure this won't be the last time I am unclear about my point. Next time you think I'm giving you a sideways remark, just ask me to clarify what I mean. If you feel like being sarcastic again (or perhaps it's that you just don't respond well to the word "silly"), aim it at somebody else.