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i think the main issue i have with this message is that it assumes that sex is a limited good. you give some away, and it won't be there for the "rightful owner." it's just as commodified and fear driven as the regular culture that tells you that women "sell" sex to get love or whatever.
i think the real gospel message about dating, love, relationship and sex is that you don't have to worry. if we're already completely loved by God, it means that we're free to stop doing all the destructive things we do to be "loved." this knowledge gives us the ability to be in real and authentic relationship with the people around us...friends, family, lovers, whoever. when you're making decisions about relationships with that security, it is a lot easier to say no to destructive relationships, ones that are uncaring, "just" about the sex, whatever. and if you do get hurt, and that's nearly an inevitability, it can give you the strengh to recover.
i would much rather live in the world and chance getting hurt than to try to build another wall up to protect the honor/purity/whatever system of telling people that there's only so much love in the world to go around. it's a damn lie, so far as i'm concerned.
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For God so loved creation, that God sent God's only Son that whosoever believed should not perish, but have everlasting life.
-John 3:16
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