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With total disregard to the argument that has ensued from this thread, here's my take on the OP's question:
In a certain circle of friends that I've had for quite sometime, the phrase is somewhat common. It's not meant in a demeaning way. The translated meaning (from "playa" into regular mature English) is this: "Don't let a purely sexual encounter that means nothing more than a mindless fuck harm or otherwise damage the friendship of the current company, whom you know will be by your side through thick and thin and ultimately when the random person that you picked up tonight has fucked you over or you're no longer interested in her." That's it. It isn't meant as an insult. Just a reminder that although the current fling will most likely fade, the friends will be there. It's a way of saying not to blow off your true friends for something fleeting.
Do I agree with calling women ho's in a derogatory blanket manner? Hell no.
And that's why I never found this all that offensive. My friends (male AND FEMALE) all knew that this was in no way a comment on women as a whole. It was just a reminder that friends are forever.
This isn't meant to be used towards a woman, but towards a situation. It's a way of trying to remind a friend to respect the friendship that he has cultivated over time and not let it slip away for sheer sensual pleasure. It's not meant to degrade women or to even discourage anyone from entering a relationship or spending time with their significant other.
Could it have been better worded? Sure thing. But the thing is, I doubt anyone on this forum is responsible for the spread of this phrase in pop-culture.
And truth be told, above the explanations and pop-culture acceptance, the reason it doesn't bother me is that I've gotten to a point where I'm just not that easily offended by words.
Want to call me a greasy Italian piece-of-shit? Go for it. I'm proud of my last name and background.
Wanna call me a cracker or a honky or a W.A.S.P? Have at 'er.
Think my long hair and beard makes me a dirty hippie? You'd be wrong, but you're more than welcome to voice it.
I can see where some people (especially anyone that has a different understanding of the phrase than the usage I'm accustomed to) would be offended. But overall, I don't think it was ever meant to be hurtful or in any way demeaning.
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