Oy vey -- I hear the progression of myself in all of these threads.
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DO NOT be the quiet guy waiting for something to happen. After all my years, I still do this on occasion and it's something to avoid. Even making an ass of yourself is better than being a wallflower as your friends try to draw you out.
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This is the most important advice in this whole thread, especially for young single male guys (which is a huge proportion of the TFP population). Sitting there thinking you look introspective is not attractive. I've been on both sides of the coin, and I can tell you that these people are probably the same ones who complain that they're the "nice guy" who get passed up for the "jerk." You can still be a "nice guy" if you get drunk as hell and boogie on the dance floor. As an added benefit, MORE people see you're a "nice guy."
It took me forever to realize that being the wallflower is an ineffective mating strategy, because its far more comfortable than dancing is. However, I remember two distinct times I went to the local club.
The first time, I was mostly sober and my usual introspective self-aware intellectual who was too good to dance. (Really, I was afraid to dance and afraid to approach a girl). I figured if a girl was worth my time, she'd come over and say something. Just didnt work out that way. So I ended up spending 2 - 3 hours playing pool on the other side of the club .. by myself, lonely and sober.
The next time, I pre-drank and went mildly intoxicated with a group of friends. Within minutes I was on the dance floor and sweating like crazy but it was one of the most fun nights of my freshman year in college. I enjoyed it so much that I can still tell stories about. Dancing really isnt complex at all, and this is coming from a 6'6" 200 lb man.. its more about feeling who you're dancing with then what the music is. If she does X on the beat, you do Y on the beat. If you wanted to beat match and dance perfectly to a song, you could do that alone.. its all about dancing WITH people when you go to a club.
As for you old fogies asking about how you can meet people in a club with such "loud music you have to scream", every club I've been to has had seperate sections. No club in their right mind could expect you to dance the entire time you're there. You can go to the bar to get another drink, or you can usually go somewhere else quieter to sit down. If you've just danced with a girl, this is your perfect opportunity to gesture towards a quieter area and meet the personality that just powered the body that danced with you. Don't like the personality, its easy enough to lose them on the floor later.
Also, even with incredibly loud music around you.. if someone gets really close and whispers in your ear, you can hear them just fine. And that, my friends, is HOT.