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Originally Posted by twistedmosaic
I had two questions, when you get a moment. First of all, are MTF transgenders primarily attracted to men or women, or is there no 'common' orientation?
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Orientation is spread; some are attracted to females, some to males, and some to both.
There are some trends. MTFs who transition in their teens are far more likely to begin attracted to males and to be heterosexual (attracted to males) post transition than homosexual, though just as with natal females, there are those who are homosexual post transition. I've read that the proportion is the same as with natal females, or some 3-5% are homosexual post transition, but have seen no evidence to back up this claim. Those who transition later in life and who are initially attracted to males retain that orientation.
Those who are initially attracted to females and transition as adults are the hardest to pin down. Many have had several sexual relationships with women, and are often married with children. My friend Jen is married, but has no children. Her wife is staying with her through her transition. MTF's who are in a long term committed relationship with a woman usually stay oriented towards women, or may become bisexual. Jen was warned by her therapist that when the estrogen she was taking started interacting with her female brain, she might start finding herself being attracted to the fellas.
Those who aren't in a relationship with a woman may remain oreinted towards women, may change orientations and become attracted to men, or may find themselves bisexual. What little I've read seems to indicate that bisexual is the most common result, but again, there have been no formal studies that I know of, so this is just anecdote and guesswork.
The same thing sometimes happens with SRS; a MTF who has never been attracted to men may find herself wanting to have sex with straight men once she has the proper equipment to do so.
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Second, if it is that 'easy' to legally change your gender, why are same-sex couples not utilizing that as a marriage loophole? I understand the theory behind wanting to be legally allowed to marry, but it seems like at least ONE or two couples would 'play the system' in this way.
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It isn't complicated, but you do have to prove that you intend to live the rest of your life as the target gender. In Sissy's case, we had the court order granting me custody, a letter from a psychologist diagnosing her as gender dysphoric, and an affadavit from her principal and counselor stating that she'd been been going to school full time as a girl, and even with all that, we had to wait until she'd been full time for six months.
I'm sure some have tried and failed, while others may have used this, but for the most part, people don't do it because it's dishonest and such dishonesty only makes things more difficult for everyone who wants equal rights for gays and the transgendered. In additon, changing your sex legally would mean notifying your employer of your new legal sex, which can cause all kinds of problems if you aren't actually living as that sex.