I just peeked in on Sissy. I'd like to say she looks fine, but she doesn't; she's all bandaged up and the parts I could see are swollen (she had a couple of facial procedures, a tracheal shave and eyebrow lift, done at the same time as her genital surgery to save money). She may wake up in half an hour or it may take two or more, and she has to stay in recovery until then.
I'm in her room now, waiting. Grace and her surgeon tell me everything went fine, better than fine actually, they went very well with no complications, and all the tissue was very healthy and they expect it to heal well in its new configuration. I won't be completely relieved until she wakes up, though.
Back to business to distract myself. Grace is watching some basketball game and doesn't want to be disturbed right now.
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Originally Posted by ShaniFaye
Does someone that has had the surgery change their sex on their birth certificate and drivers licenses and passports etc?
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Yes, although legally changing sex isn't automatic with the surgery, isn't even required in fact, and can be done earlier. Sissy had her name and legal sex changed at the same time. It went like this. We got the court order awarding me custody on a certain date, and she moved in with me on that exact date. She went full time (began living as a female 24/7) the next day, and hasn't worn men's clothes or done anything as a male since. Three months later, when she had finished her initial therapy and been diagnosed with gender identity disorder by a psychologist, we filed papers with the state where we live, her state of birth, and the federal government to legally change her sex and name. Her birth certificate was reissued by the state with her sex listed as female and with her new name, and her sex and name were changed legally on all state records and with the social security administration. She's been legally a female with her new name for more than three years now. She's legally female everywhere but Texas, Kansas, and Florida, because those states don't recognize the legality of sex changes.
The name and legal sex change can been done separately, and neither are actually required. Many change their legal sex and name sometime after going full time but before their genital surgery. On rare occasions, they don't change their legal sex at all. My friend Jen, for example, doesn't plan to change her legal sex, because the state where we live is a defense of marriage state (the same reason I can't legally marry Grace). Changing her status legally to female would dissolve her marriage as the law stands now.
Interestingly, the fact that Texas doesn't recognize sex changes has caused many same sex couples to go there to get married. Because a MTF, even one who is post op and legally female to the federal government, is still legally male there, she can marry another woman, but cannot marry a man, ie, in Texas, for a transsexual, same sex marriage is legal, but a heterosexual marriage is not.