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Originally Posted by streak_56
There are something that cannot be explained that easily, so I guess thats why I don't really want to ask why. But for me my biggest question would be what is the impact on these persons life, before and after the change? Were they treated differently or was it all the same?
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Their lives are never the same as before transition.
How different thier lives are, and how they are different depends greatly on the situation as it existed previous to the transition. For Sissy, she was living with my parents, who were trying to force her into being a boy, she was punished if she acted or dressed like a girl, she was antagonized at school where she wasn't accepted by just about anyone, and she in effect couldn't date. Nobody believed that she was a girl inside, that she wasn't just a gay boy.
After she came to live with me, and she started living and going to school as a girl, which she did immediately, even before the hormones had any physical effect, she was enormously, amazingly a much happier person. She no longer harbored thoughts of suicide, she was able to be friends with the girls and more importantly be a girl in public, and she was able to be a girl at home. It improved her life immeasurably. This is true of most who transition in their teens; their lives are easier and better as girls than as boys, particularly as they tend to be identified by the outside world as gay boys prior to transition; it's easier to be a straight girl than a gay boy in our society.
Most transsexuals transition as adults (these are sometimes called secondary transsexuals). Life is usually more difficult for them as they transition, and though it becomes easier post transition than it was during, it's almost always more difficult than it was pre-transition. They risk losing friends, jobs, and family. Those who are married usually lose their wives and children. It's far more difficult for them to pass as and be accepted as female. Many end up living quiet, desperate, lonely lives, unable to find companionship or acceptance anywhere outside the transgender community. There are those who return to their previous male role because of not being able to get employment or find acceptance anywhere as a woman. Most, however, feel their lives are better, even though they are more difficult, even when they've lost family, wives and children, jobs and friends, because they are able to be who they are and were always supposed to be.