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tiltedbc · 06-16-2005, 07:51 AM

here we go again..

- you're the "nice guy". She thinks of you as a friend to fallback on.

- here's how far you'll get with this girl; nowhere. If she was interested, you'd know.

- It is VITAL that you extinguish any fantasy growing in your head about this girl. I've been through this mania before. Sure, you're what she needs and will save her from her current situation etc... but the one needing saving is yourself. If you can take control of your own mind, this will make you a stronger person. If you can't, this is how you can begin a drug addiction, social problems, violence or suicide. WORK on getting past this.

- act like normal towards her. Treat her as the friend she thinks you are. If you pullback or act wierd she'll get concerned. DO NOT moan about this to other co-workers or try to work on her. If she's interested, she'll make the advance.

- if it's too hard to be around her, look for a new job. Seriously, this is why workplace or forced situation relationships are so tough. Don't shit where you eat.

- the EX (or some other dude) is always going to be in the background. Women that breakup/makeup will follow this pattern as a lifestyle. Be thankful if this hasn't cost you too much money.

- educate yourself better about relationships. There's some really good books on this subject such as "secrets of the Alpha Male" or "the social cowards seduction system". You didn't know how to ride a bike when you were born right? Mating/dating skills are something worth learning even if you've had previous relationships.

- really attractive girls can afford to be heartless and crazy. They've got their pick of boyfriends and they rarely choose a "nice guy" until they're ready to settle down. You need to find a girl who's interested in you and willing to make an effort. Or you need to become the outlaw biker type this crazy girls can't seem to resist. Go backpacking by yourself through Central America and you'll come back a different man (if you survive).

- this too will pass. I know it doesn't seem like it now, but give it some time. Consider this a learning experience and not a failure. Join some clubs or volunteer your time so you can meet other people along with women then let life progress.

You live. You learn.

06-16-2005, 07:51 AM	#6 (permalink)
tiltedbc Crazy Location: BC, Canada	here we go again.. - you're the "nice guy". She thinks of you as a friend to fallback on. - here's how far you'll get with this girl; nowhere. If she was interested, you'd know. - It is VITAL that you extinguish any fantasy growing in your head about this girl. I've been through this mania before. Sure, you're what she needs and will save her from her current situation etc... but the one needing saving is yourself. If you can take control of your own mind, this will make you a stronger person. If you can't, this is how you can begin a drug addiction, social problems, violence or suicide. WORK on getting past this. - act like normal towards her. Treat her as the friend she thinks you are. If you pullback or act wierd she'll get concerned. DO NOT moan about this to other co-workers or try to work on her. If she's interested, she'll make the advance. - if it's too hard to be around her, look for a new job. Seriously, this is why workplace or forced situation relationships are so tough. Don't shit where you eat. - the EX (or some other dude) is always going to be in the background. Women that breakup/makeup will follow this pattern as a lifestyle. Be thankful if this hasn't cost you too much money. - educate yourself better about relationships. There's some really good books on this subject such as "secrets of the Alpha Male" or "the social cowards seduction system". You didn't know how to ride a bike when you were born right? Mating/dating skills are something worth learning even if you've had previous relationships. - really attractive girls can afford to be heartless and crazy. They've got their pick of boyfriends and they rarely choose a "nice guy" until they're ready to settle down. You need to find a girl who's interested in you and willing to make an effort. Or you need to become the outlaw biker type this crazy girls can't seem to resist. Go backpacking by yourself through Central America and you'll come back a different man (if you survive). - this too will pass. I know it doesn't seem like it now, but give it some time. Consider this a learning experience and not a failure. Join some clubs or volunteer your time so you can meet other people along with women then let life progress. You live. You learn.