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Originally Posted by Ustwo
What I mean is that the women should not be allowed to feel that she 'has' you 100%. The male must project to her that while he likes her, if she leaves he will get by just fine, and perhaps he is still looking. Is this a mind game? Sure, but I think it is needed as sex is a mind game, involving factors that are as old as life itself.
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I agree with Ustwo in that whether you are male or female, if you lock onto somebody with the "you are my world" mentality it becomes unattractive. There is nothing wrong maintaining individual interests, individual opinions, and a regard for yourself that supersedes the relationship. Letting somebody know that you worthy and desirable inside or outside of the relationship keeps SO's from taking each other for granted.
I imagine in 13 years together, Ustwo's wife must display a bit of this as well, which is not a "mind game" but rather self confidence.