Being called 'hon' absolutely sets my teeth on edge... I can't stand it... Unless you know me well, no terms of endearment please... Sweetie is another one that drives me nuts because I am anything but sweet -- bitter old hag might be more appropriate
But hon/hun is used more often than sweetie... and it makes me crazy... I have a name, use it please, if you don't know my name, then well... don't make one up, Miss will do nicely.
Miss/Ms doesnt bother me, Mrs I will blink once or twice but usually am flattered that they actually think I could find someone to marry me...