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Originally Posted by irateplatypus
...puzzled at the suspicion and hostility directed towards the topic.
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Couldn't agree more. I'm a divorced dad whose six-figure-income ex couldn't care less about the two boys she bore. I raise them 25 out of 30 days on about a tenth of what she makes.
The prejudice I experience as a primary parent WHO HAPPENS TO BE A MAN is reflected pretty clearly in this thread. Fatherhood advocates are always assumed to "have an ax to grind". What is a motherhood advocate? The idea is completely assumed by 99% of the poulation, but there are plenty of fathers and children out there who want and need Dad to be a presence in their lives, and that presence is actively discouraged by moms who are more interested in battling with dad than providing what's best for their children.
I hope that anyone who posts to this thread from now on indicates whether or not they have kids, whether they have a spouse helping to raise those kids, and whether they had a dad in their home growing up. I think the picture would quickly clear. My dad had the shittiest childhood I ever heard of, but he was a fantastic dad, and continues to be my role model. I love my mom, and even my ex--I feel sorry for her, more than anything else -- but when my significance and importance as a father is questioned, I bristle, and I make no apologies.
I am angry, and prejudiced by experience, and certain that my presence as a dad is literally saving my sons' lives.