JinnKai, I've been trying to think of where I struggle with this the most... and I think it's when I fear for my own safety or life. Then I feel most justified to correct someone... since then, I obviously have something to gain: my own life!
This happens often when I am the passenger in a car, mostly because when I was learning to drive, my parents made sure to alert me whenever they felt their lives were in danger (and thus I learned how to drive with pretty harsh teachers, which I'm grateful for now).
I've learned that quite a few people haven't had the same instruction, and so I find myself KNOWING that I am right about particular driving situations and skills (not all; I speed, and I park illegally), and yet when I often speak up about this, the driver invariably gets offended/defensive. This includes my boyfriend, friends, and even my own dad.
I try to say things gently, but I really don't know how else to communicate this knowledge. Do I wait until someone driving asks me for advice, after they've already crashed into the car in front? Does anyone have experience with this?
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