Originally Posted by BCD

I have a bit hypocritical view of things. I actually did some stripping in college, including for bachelorette parties. I think bachelor and bachelorette parties are acceptable, provided there isn't any over-the-top sexual contact. I don't mean slapping ass or having genitals stuck in your face. I'm talking more along the lines of blowjobs, handjobs / fingering, and sex. Stuff where the attendees start thinking you're being inappropriate and disrespectful to your future spouse, and where, if your future spouse found out, you know they would totally lose their mind.

It wasn't uncommon for women to give me a blowjob at the bachelorette parties. While these women were usually not the bride to be, sometimes they were. Looking back at it, I feel pretty bad that I permitted / encouraged this with these bachelorettes. It would be one thing if they were open and honest with their fiance about it and otherwise had their consent, but I'm certain almost every one did not tell their fiance, did not have their fiance's consent, and probably felt somewhat guilty about it. This is not a good way to start a marriage, which needs to be based on trust and boundaries.