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Originally Posted by bera
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Iīm not a book writer. I just canīt write fifty lines here. I just tought you people could go on with the topic algon with me.
Sorry if I bothered anyone...
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Not bothered, it's just a point of board etiquette. Before you ask people to reveal pretty intimate details of their lives, it's good form to either share something about yourself, or let them know why you're interested. Sorry for harshing on you, we just get a lot of silly one-line "things that make you go hmmm" threads that go nowhere. Not that this is a silly question.
I'll pony up:
Problems with sex:
- Like many women, I have a hard time orgasming without clitoral stimulation, which can make things difficult. It takes me a while to get there, and sometimes getting the timing right for both of us (not talking simultaneous orgasm, just keeping things er...stimulating) is just impossible.
- Ratbastid is a foot taller than I am, which makes shower sex difficult for one or the other of us. If I'm standing up, he has to bend his knees. If I'm up on the edge of the tub, he's comfy but my knees and up getting turned out and dislocated. (I have bad knees).
- I want a girlfriend. One who wouldn't mind occasionally playing with ratbastid, too. It is becoming clearer and clearer to me that the current object of my affections, female-wise, is not really a compatible match for me. I'm so out of practice with dating - I met ratbastid week 1 of college and we've been together ever since - I have no idea how to go about finding someone.
- All of my fantasies seem to be about submission. For some reason this bothers me.
- I get bladder infections very easily, so sometimes sex is just plain painful. Cranberry juice is your friend. Well, my friend anyhow.
- My clitoris seems to bruise easily. Or maybe I'm just extraordinarily aggressive with it or something. Anyhow, sometimes it can be so painful that wearing pants hurts.
I'm sure I could think of more. Overall, I'm pretty happy with my sex life. We've found ways to work around a lot of the things that have been problems in the past, and we have a lot of fun
I do wish I had more drive - so does ratbastid - but until I get off b/c and Paxil things are probably going to proceed as they are for a while.