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Originally Posted by Sage
Huzzah for having a real, open, communicative conversation. THAT is what makes a marriage work- not a good sex life, not money, not a huge wedding, but true, open, and honest communication. Once you know what's going on, then you can begin to take steps to meet each other halfway and work through your problems. Now that you know what's going on with your fiancee, what are you going to do about it? How are you going to help him know that you love him and want him to be more agressive (in initiating sex/giving compliments)? I think that premarital counseling would be good as well- you say your fiancee didn't have a lot of relationship expierence before you. Having relationships leads you to learn from expierence what works and what doesn't, and when you don't have that expierence it's useful to learn how to cultivate a working marriage from someone who knows best (i.e. a pre-marital counselor). Good luck  ! |
We're definitely not having premarital counselling. Neither of us think we have problems that warrant that sort of step at this point --- it would be like calling in a water bomber to put out a match
This is one sore issue, out of a thousand issues where we are perfectly on target with one another.
The ball is in his court right now; and when he does compliment me I will be sure to thank him. Effusively, if the compliment warrants it, both with words and actions.
Just to add, we're most definitely not having a big wedding --- lest you think I'm staying with someone just for the sake of having "a big day", just to clarify 'cuz I noticed you mentioned "huge wedding" in your post. We're basically eloping. I'm definitely not one of "those girls" who loves the wedding more than the spouse.
Thanks again!