Huzzah for having a real, open, communicative conversation. THAT is what makes a marriage work- not a good sex life, not money, not a huge wedding, but true, open, and honest communication. Once you know what's going on, then you can begin to take steps to meet each other halfway and work through your problems. Now that you know what's going on with your fiancee, what are you going to do about it? How are you going to help him know that you love him and want him to be more agressive (in initiating sex/giving compliments)? I think that premarital counseling would be good as well- you say your fiancee didn't have a lot of relationship expierence before you. Having relationships leads you to learn from expierence what works and what doesn't, and when you don't have that expierence it's useful to learn how to cultivate a working marriage from someone who knows best (i.e. a pre-marital counselor). Good luck
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