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I read parts of your post to him, Acetylene, because it is really the most applicable thing I've read so far and worded the best. And it was like I cracked something there and he was REALLY open.
He said that deep down, part of him still feels like if he were to be very aggressive or overtly sexual in complimenting me, he would be rejected or I would be somehow offended (which makes sense, because he was pretty innocent and very nonaggressive physically when I met him and still often is shy about initiating --- but fucks up a storm when I initiate).
And while he didn't have anything emotionally invested in what other women would think of his compliments, if I were to be offended or reject a compliment or advance, he says it would crush him. He is basically afraid, he says that I intimidate him. And it was the best discussion we've had on the subject and I feel immensely relieved; within the context of his personality vs mine it makes so, so much sense.
So... thanks!!!
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