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gh0ti · 05-28-2005, 06:47 PM

I’ve been the guy on the other side of this thread in the past. The girl I lost my virginity to was much more experienced then I was. We started out as good friends and the conversation came up and she gave me a number. Once we got together the conversation came up again and that number changed (lower actually). A couple of years later the number changed again (much higher this time). Yeah the number bothered me. But it bothered me much much more that she lied to me about it. Call it insecurity or what not but the bottom line is I don’t like being lied to. It turned into a big problem in my head and most of the 5 years we were together I didn’t really trust her. (I apparently had a good reason not to trust her since it came out that she slept with 2 of my so called “best friends” while we were together). Looking back I was very immature about the whole thing, but it turned out that my worst fears came true.

I don’t know. This experience has honestly made me use promiscuity and honesty as a gauge. I don’t want to be with someone who is going to lie to me. And I don’t want someone who is going to sleep around on me. I really wish I could change the way I think, but being human, I learn by experience. I simply won’t let myself be burned like that again. I have cut off a couple relationships that might have gone somewhere simply based on a little white lie early on or a high number of past sexual partners.

I would take the time and really think if you guys need to be with each other. Maybe your not the right one for him and vise versa. There is someone for everyone out there, be picky, very picky. Don’t sell your self short.

You don't need to pretend to be someone you are not to impress the person you want to be with. If s/he does not like you for who you are, then there is someone else right around the corner who will. You can be sure of that.

05-28-2005, 06:47 PM	#59 (permalink)
gh0ti Crazy	I’ve been the guy on the other side of this thread in the past. The girl I lost my virginity to was much more experienced then I was. We started out as good friends and the conversation came up and she gave me a number. Once we got together the conversation came up again and that number changed (lower actually). A couple of years later the number changed again (much higher this time). Yeah the number bothered me. But it bothered me much much more that she lied to me about it. Call it insecurity or what not but the bottom line is I don’t like being lied to. It turned into a big problem in my head and most of the 5 years we were together I didn’t really trust her. (I apparently had a good reason not to trust her since it came out that she slept with 2 of my so called “best friends” while we were together). Looking back I was very immature about the whole thing, but it turned out that my worst fears came true. I don’t know. This experience has honestly made me use promiscuity and honesty as a gauge. I don’t want to be with someone who is going to lie to me. And I don’t want someone who is going to sleep around on me. I really wish I could change the way I think, but being human, I learn by experience. I simply won’t let myself be burned like that again. I have cut off a couple relationships that might have gone somewhere simply based on a little white lie early on or a high number of past sexual partners. I would take the time and really think if you guys need to be with each other. Maybe your not the right one for him and vise versa. There is someone for everyone out there, be picky, very picky. Don’t sell your self short. You don't need to pretend to be someone you are not to impress the person you want to be with. If s/he does not like you for who you are, then there is someone else right around the corner who will. You can be sure of that. __________________ I ain't often right but I've never been wrong It seldom turns out the way it does in the song Once in a while you get shown the light In the strangest of places if you look at it right