I won't comment on the effectiveness of the majority of that list, but I will say that many of those are used by therapists and self-help-type therapy books to help people in dire need of a stepping stone. There is no universal set of rules for arguing between partners in a relationship, as everyone's ideals and opinions are different. As such, the original list in this thread is comprised mostly of (in my educated opinion) stepping-stone-type suggestions for modes of behavior with respect to people who can't make lists for themselves. That is why many of those items seem peculiar to some of us, as they are not the types of suggestions we'd ever use. This is because not everyone needs a stepping-stone. There is nothing wrong with the stepping-stone suggestions, and many of them have merit in many instances.
Just take the list with a grain of salt.
