There's some experiences in which are so unique [because, in some way or another, everyone has a different perspective on life, because they lived life in a diff. way, time, location, etc....] that only the person who experienced it can reap the lesson from it nor can they pass that lesson on to anyone else. Also, because some people haven't directly experienced something or seen other imparted experiences, they cannot reap the lesson.
I remember, as an adolescent, being told that "you'll understand/see why eventually one day." Granted, some of those remarks might have been just copouts, but some wisdom cannot be learned by imparted experience, or at least cannot be learned because they [the receiver] don't have enough personal experience of their own [using similar experiences that the receiver had] [or the inate reason/wisdom that grows over time] to understand the other person's mistake/experience. Whew.
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Why bring pain on yourself if you've just watched someone fuck things up for themselves? Usually I only do this when I'm feeling a bit arrogant, that *I* might be better than this other person, and that this *won't ever* happen to me... and then, just to spite me, it almost always does happen.
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I feel this way with my dad, a recovering alcoholic. He often feels the need to preach to me about the dangers of alcohol, although I can directly see that the effects of it upon him are all what I need to prevent myself from going down the same path.
My teachers from high school were pretty big influences on me, since I was awed by them, for a city boy whose classmates mainly went to the public high school, getting into a pretty nice private school.
As I reflect upon Cynthetiq's a bit more, I realize that my physchologist was my mentor. My dad, most of his wisdom was encouragement to become heavily involved in religion [I'm still religious though, not nearly as much as my dad, but more than my 3 sisters] and also seemed at the time to be idealogical and I was [and maybe still am a bit] unable to connect it in a secular society. However, beginning in the 8th grade and throughout my high school year, though less frequent in my junior and senior year, I visited my physchologist, and really helped me with wisdom, self-confidence, understanding, and becoming a better person.