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Originally Posted by anniegetyergun
. i have never had an std, and nor have i rubbed my number into my mans face.
that scenario was 13-ish months ago, so i would assume that he liked what he learned about me, yet i still get punished. and to be totally fair, this boy has done some outrageously kind and loving things for me too, like he bought me a beautiful acoustic guitar for my birthday costing over $300, and driving all over the country with me.
if i see a guy in public that i even remotly know, he will grill me about him until he finds out who they are, and what role they have played in my life.
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A) This is abuse. Your lover should not 'punish you' unless you're doing role-playing in the bedroom.
B) Any guy with an open wallet could 'show affection' for you. This is tantamount to buying the wife flowers the day after he hits her. I bet he rubs this in too, this 'expensive present'., telling you it must mean he loves you.
He has no right to comment on your past, you own it, not him. He is trying to put his insecurities on you. He is controlling who you talk to, where you go (if not now, you will see it coming soon).
My first husband was like this too. I got grilled on a regular basis about all my orevious encounters. If I refused to indulge, he would demand and demand, this going on for hours, until I found I was defending myself.
This was wrong, as I had done nothing to him. After we separarted, I saw it was a form of control. Now I refuse to divulge info to the men in my life on my past. I say I'm tested, and clean, and that better be good enough for him. I do no prying myself.
Everyone has a past. This includes him. It may include activities out of the bedroom, but
no one is perfect.
Please, tell him this is unacceptable. He needs to work through this, and not take it out on you. This is his problem, I cannot repeat that enough.