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Originally Posted by Rodney
Most lessons I've learned really well involved some kind of pain or discomfort. And when I didn't personally experience the pain, I learned the lesson from watching _someone else_ experience the pain directly, and identifying with them.
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Yep, I think this is key... both the direct and indirect learning from experience. Why bring pain on yourself if you've just watched someone fuck things up for themselves? Usually I only do this when I'm feeling a bit arrogant, that *I* might be better than this other person, and that this *won't ever* happen to me... and then, just to spite me, it almost always does happen.
Granted, as Seeker said, sometimes you ARE better (like her raising her own daughter)... but I think that ability to recognize good examples from bad ones is another part of maturity/discernment, and knowing what hurt you w/the bad example. I know my mom made some serious mistakes with me, since they caused me pain... so I hope I learned enough about them to avoid most of them.
