^^^^ I see where you are coming from ktspktsp, thanks for explaining your perspective. Although it still seems too intimate for my taste if it were my husband going... But i do see your perspective now and it makes much more sense, thank for for taking the time to explain to me
everything is about boundaries and how we define them . . . everyone defines them differently. I think each couple should find what makes BOTH people happy and adhere to that boundary in each given situation . . . boundaries can change as well over time, flowing one way or another . . . always communicate and remember to put each other's happiness first . . .
Bottom line: I think Abaya is the most amazing woman ( i don't even know her that well yet) she's smart, lovely and kind . . . so i just want to see her happy
As you do too i know.
You two are a great couple . . . you're going to do well together
Sweetpea