Hi Sweetpea,
Thanks for the input.
Basically, since I don't have 'intimate' thoughts about our friend, I just treated it like going with a male friend in my head.
I've also camped for a week in Puerto Rico with a bunch of friends, and I was in the same tent as that girl and her roommate (this was before I got together with Abaya, although I was interested in her already
). And it was all nonsexual to me, so I assumed it would feel the same.
I guess our boundaries (Abaya's and I) on this issue were not defined.. Hence the problem. I'm also on my first relationship so I don't have those boundaries defined for me yet. I just assumed "we're friends, and that's all she is to me now, so I'll just camp with her and it'll be fine". Of course after talking with Abaya I realized things were not that simple.
2 more things: (1) the goal was to go camping, and our friend lives nearby so it was a natural choice (I don't have many friends around me since I move to a different place). I also intend to ask another guy I know in the area to see if he's interested. Although I'm now realizing that campgrounds will be booked for the holiday, but then again planning is not my greatest strength :P
(2) I was actually thinking of bringing a pad just for my sleeping bag, and I had another one which I could've brought for the trip too. I wasn't interested in sleeping on the same mattress, I agree that feels a bit odd since it's more like a bed.